Friday, November 28, 2014

If we Cannot have Justice, We Cannot have Peace

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How many times will we ask this government  for help, and watch the door get slammed in our faces, then turn around on our own people and shame them?

Yes, there is an issue with black on black crime. That is an issue that stems deep within our community  and comes from a multitude of factors. It is not excusable. However, it is not the reason or the cause to bash blacks who are rioting around this country.

What is next? Who is next? Your son? Mine? My husband? Yours? Black lives are being taken by law enforcement  and George Zimmermans and NO ONE is doing anything. How many times are we going to turn to this same system and get no results? We get angry at the virdict, and we move on.

There needs to be an uprising  of the people. Some will do it through words, some will do it peacefully, some will write and some will riot. But it has to be done. In a revolution you need your MLKS and your Blank Panthers.

No matter how wrong it is all races of people riot. When the Phillies won the world series the fans destroyed  Broad Street. Does anyone remember that? Or do we just keep a little book highlighting  all the wrongs black people have done. Just because you don't understand something, doesn't make it wrong.

That community  you all think you have that they're destroying is not yours. You don't have a community in America, because you don't have a value in America. Your children do not have a value in America. America does not care about you or your right to live peacefully. Why do you care about it?

NO JUSTICE. NO PEACE.
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Sunday, October 19, 2014

Iggy Steps Out Make-Up Free After Nasty Feud with Snoop Dogg

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Kudos to Iggy Azalea for going make-up free even after having been bashed my Snoop Dogg on instagram last week. It's such a breath of fresh air to see a celebrity who is comfortable in her own skin. This girl knows that she doesn't have to hide who she really is behind a face full of make-up, just because someone else doesn't like how she looks. I'm not a make-up everyday kind of person, so I like that :)



Last week's feud:

Last weekend Snoop Dogg posted a photo of an albino woman on Instagram and poked fun at Iggy saying that the photo shows how she looks with no make-up.


Iggy responded with the following Tweets:
"@SnoopDogg why would you post such a mean pic on insta when you send your body guards to ask me for pictures every time we are at shows together?" 
"My bodyguard stopped the fire truck that saved your friend's life in Canada when he almost burnt down the hotel," 
"And every time I've ever spoken to you you've always been nice as hell," 
"I'm disappointed you'd be such an ass for no reason." 
In response to her tweets, Iggy was put on blast by Daz Dallinger who said she doesn't know her place in the rap world. 

Meanwhile Snoop Dogg continued his tirade.

On a picture of himself wearing a blond wig he wrote, "Snoop Dogg and Iggy Azalea Beef!?"
"So says Todd cool out lil sis he was only jokin Sike. Ubitchu!!" he wrote. He also posted a split shot of himself and Azalea with an X between them and wrote "And u were saying?"

On a pic of Iggy next to Marlon Wayans' character in White Chicks he wrote,"Ok last one. Hahahahaha I didn't make this s--t up I jus post smoke n chill Hahahahahahah. So says Todd." 

Then he posted this: "Ok last one n Imma leave the bitch alone!! Hahahahahah So says Todd"

Another image after that read "U finished bitch cuz I got a lot more where that came from ufunky bitch u!!" He just went crazy calling her names and posting images. He even posted an image of Nicki Minaj sitting by herself and said it was Nicki Minaj sitting with other relevant female rappers and asked,
 "Where is Iggy ? Nowhere insight. @realnickiminaj_ F--k the fake n non writers yeah that means u again biitch !! Go nikki go Hoe Iggy hoe !! Sweet dreams c--t."  
Iggy posted the below photo comparing Snoop to a drug addicted aunt.
That caused Snoop to post a nasty video speaking to Iggy. He says in the video, "Say bitch, you fucking with the wrong n---a and your n---a better check you before I do. You funky bitch. Yeah you! Fucking cunt."

The video prompted responses from both Iggy & her boyfriend. Nick Young tweeted: 
"These old heads turnin into sucka's" and  "Ain't nobody worried about SnoopLion .. this dude Just goin through a midlife Crisis..."
While Iggy posted the following:
“I could post a million more memes about snoop dogg making fun of the way he looks too, thats easy.“But the real joke here is the middle aged man whos butt hurt i asked why he was pulling a Regina George move on social media.“If I’m a bitch for asking why you are supportive to my face but another way on your Instagram then so be it.“post away about this “bitch” I’ve seen all the memes the word has to offer in regards to me i honestly don’t care. and its a shame because honestly everyone on my team myself included have only ever sung his praises. but there you have it.“personally i only shake hands & offer my support to those i actually like & i don’t post shit about others for attention to begin with.“anyhow guys, lots of love to you all. just got home from watching gone girl – strange ending. but interesting. ima be the bigger man in this situation and leave it be.“its like the guy that asks for your number and then says you ugly and a bitch when you say no…”
Then at some point it ended with Snoop apologizing:
"Hey boys and girls, I just got off the phone with my boy Tip, the King of Atlanta.
It's officially over. No more bad talk. I apologize. I'm sorry. I won't do it again."
Iggy posted her acceptance of the apology on twitter. 
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Wednesday, October 15, 2014

Philadelphia’s Revised 5-Year Budget Gets OK Despite Wage Tax Dustup « CBS Philly

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Philadelphia’s Revised 5-Year Budget Gets OK Depite Wage Tax Dustup « CBS 

Mayor Nutter's “Five Year Plan,” for the city's budget was approved today. He changed the plan by deciding not to reduce the city wage tax as previously planned.

PICA chairman, Lawrence Tabas made a valid point about this, stating:

"If we face an increase in the state income tax next year, those two taxes alone are going to have people think twice about the City of Philadelphia, especially when you add the extra sales tax on it.”

“Our young are starting to evaluate whether they can afford to stay in the city.  The middle class are being squeezed.  So if we don’t do something soon, we could hurt the kind of benefits that we've just been realizing from the (economy’s) turnaround.”

The board then went on to approve the budget with its revisions. 

I don't know how anyone else feels, but I don't like working just to pay the city & my bills. I wonder if they talked about cutting out pointless spending (like redoing the front of city hall to put those little fountains there) during that meeting. 


How we're being taxed:

Earnings/Wage:
3.92% (Resident)
3.4915% (Non-Resident)

Net Profits:
3.924% (Resident)
3.495% (Non-Resident)

Real Estate:
.6018% (City) + .7382% (School) = 1.34% (Total)

Realty Transfer:
3% (City) + 1% (Commonwealth) = 4% (Total)

Sales & use tax: 
2.00% (City) + 6.00% (Commonwealth) = 8.00% (Total)

Tobacco Tax: 
$0.036 individually rolled items (cigars)
$0.36 per pack of rolling papers
$0.36 per ounce of all other tobacco and tobacco-related item
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Sunday, October 12, 2014

What Today's Music is Teaching our Children about Self Respect and Relationships

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I am posting this blog knowing that parents ultimately have the responsibility of shielding their children from inappropriate music and videos.

However, I do believe in the idea that it takes a village to raise a child.  When I was a child, radio stations were not allowed to play certain songs, because of the content in those songs.

Many times I am driving in the car with my children and we can't listen to the R&B / Hip Hop stations because of the inappropriate content and ideas in the lyrics of the songs they choose to play. I also have to change from the Pop Stations often times for the same reason.

It seems like everytime I turn on the radio I have to hear about someone fucking or getting high.

Here are just a few songs that I won't allow my children to listen to & what I took from it that made me decide this.

"Take all of me / I just wanna be the girl you like, girl you like / The kinda girl you like / Is right here with me" Lyics to "Partition" by BEYONCE
What these lyrics say to me: Take all of me, so I can be the girl you like. Not the girl you love, not the girl you respect, not the girl you want to have a relationship with or marry. Just the girl you like.
"Drunken Love" is also banned in my household.

"Girl, take pride in what you wanna do / Even if that means a new man every night inside of you" -
Lyrics to "Remember You" song by WIZ KHALIFA
What these lyrics say to me: Let a bunch of different guys bang you out every night, but give this one something to remember...& that's all he'll give you too...& hopefully that's not an STD.

"If you a lame, nigga you ain't making no noise / Get faded, turn up with the big boys / Live fast, die young that's my choice" -Lyrics to "2 On" by Tinashe
What these lyrics say to me: I'm just going to make this look fun & maybe I'll eventually overdose or something so I won't have to deal with life, or my irresponsible behavior.

"Gotta stay high all my life / To forget I'm missing you / Ooh-ooh, ooh-ooh
Pick up daddies at the playground / How I spend my daytime / Loosen up the frown, / Make them feel alive / I'll make it fast and greasy / I'm numb and way too easy
You're gone and I gotta stay / High all the time"
"Habits" by TOVE LO.
What these lyrics say to me: I'm pathetic and wallowing in self pity, because I'm not strong enough to move on with my life.

"I gotta missed call from your bitch / She been plotting on me for a cool minute / She wanna' suck my dick, and I'm cool with it / I like her in the shower, when it's wet and fresh / It's that twitter pussy I met on the internet"
"Don't Tell 'Em" by Jerimih ft YG.
Too explicit. It leaves nothing to the imagine. Unromantic and trashy. This is what they want to brainwash our sons to think about girls.

"Blowing up a nigga phone, what I tell yo ass 'bout that? / Tryna hold something, hold my nuts, can you do that? / Can you play around with that mouth while he hit it from the back? / You can't say nothing now 'cause we all been through that.... So what you saying, hoe?
You Know I'm the man, hoe?...Hit her on yo mattress, make her feel some type of way / Pass her to my amigos, they gonna bust it, ándale...It ain't nothing to cut that bitch off"
K Camp, Cut Her Off
Same as above. Smh.

There are so many others that it's sad. If you notice, radio stations play the same handful of artists and songs repeatedly. This is because studies have shown that familiarity seems to be the most important factor in making people "emotionally engaged with music." In other words, repeatedly playing a song will eventually result in the listener liking the song or wanting to listen to it again. Which will probably increase the likelyhood that they'll buy it. But if repetition can brainwash people into liking a song, what is the influence of the lyrics being repeated over and over again to our youth?

The music industry is trying to brainwash our sons to be dogs and our daughters to be easy, while so called feminist are busy complaining about graphic tees and people who  slut-shame. Really?

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Thursday, October 02, 2014

If You Don't Like the T, Don't Buy It

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Recently, some blogger going by PJ got her panties all in a bunch, over a DC t-shirt in Walmart. The gray & purple graphic tee read, "Training to be Batman's wife." I think its cute. Apparently PJ did not. She blogged about the tee in a rage saying:
 “The idea that you should settle for being married to or sleeping with someone awesome instead of being the awesome person is insulting...”
 “This just happens to be aimed at a young girl. I resent the idea that she should “train” to be so Batman’s wife.”
First: Its just a t-shirt. If you don't like it, don't buy it.
Second: The shirt is not saying you should settle for anything. That's just how you interpreted it.
Who says you can't be "the awesome person" yourself and be an awesome wife? Why should being a wife, be considered as settling? 
I'm sick and tired of society trying to beat the idea of marriage out of girls'  heads. What is wrong with idea of being married?
These days women are going to college,  getting degrees, having careers and being awesome before they even get married. Then they have awesome husbands, and can be awesome wives and mothers. What is wrong with that?
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Sunday, September 21, 2014

Beating Children is Technically an American Tradition

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When I was in public Elementary school in Oklahoma, bad students got paddled (by the male gym teacher). I don't think they were abused.

I've never been hit with a switch, but most of the black adults I know recieved this type of discipline when they were young. Beatings are embedded in our history as much as chitterlings are. I'm not saying all black people beat their kids, or that we all eat chitterlings. I'm saying that during slavery we endured things generation after generation and these things became our way of life.

Slaves would often beat their children in order to prevent a worse lashing from master. Many times when slaves were beat themselves, either them, or another slave was told to get the whip. If a slave got out of line a beating was the most common way of punishing him. Our belief that beatings are an acceptable form of punishment is a direct result of how we were treated as slaves. Slavery changed our way of life, our culture and our future.

This is because generation after generation has grown up with bits and pieces of slave traditions passed along to them from the people before them.

For example, both my grandma and great-grandma told me stories of having to go out and pick a switch so they could get beat (by their parents). Sometimes with clothes on and sometimes naked. My mother has told me stories of having to get the belt to get beat and how she and her siblings were paddled, smacked, and dragged. Although, I've never been hit with a switch, or dragged or paddled as the generations before me, my mom sent me to get the belt on more than one occassion. 

I do not personally know a single black person who did not get a beating/spanking at least once in their life. I got "beat" when I was small. I got "slapped" & I got "popped." (For the most part, my mother hit me with her open hand). Not all the time, and not  for everything I did wrong. 

I've was an honor student all through school. I have no criminal record. I have no points on my driver's license. I volunteer from time to time. I work. I vote. I don't think that getting beat had any negative affects on me. My parents knew the difference between discipline and abuse.

In 2001 I took parenting classes as part of a women's support program that I was in at the time (for domestic abuse, but that's another story). I don't know the last time I hit one of my children. I don't have to. I can just take away something they like, or ban them from things. In some cases, I can make them cry just by telling them how disappointed I am in their behavior (i.e. a lecture).

But here's how psychologically damaging our past can be to our present. When the news about Adrian Peterson came out, the first thing I said was, "Really? He's so stupid! Why didn't he just have the mom beat the kid? He's too big to be doing that." My dad did not beat me as a child. My mom did it, because I was a  girl & my parents felt my dad's strength could cause him to go too far. I never thought Adrian Peterson was wrong, or cared to find out how severe the child was beat. In my mind, he was a parent disciplining his child and the media was freaking out for nothing. 

Blacks aren't the only people who beat their children. Practically everyone I know has been struck by their parents at least once in their Iife.

There's been alot of stuff about spanking posted on the internet lately. I think this one of Kermit is pretty funny. But on a serious note, people have to know how to draw a line between abuse and discipline. 


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Monday, September 15, 2014

WHERE IS JANTEYL?

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This afternoon I experienced the scariest moment of my life. My son was missing. His sister had detention & he tried to take the subway & bus home by himself (this was at 3:30pm). He got lost. By 7pm we still could not find him. I felt my heart sink & it became hard to breathe. I didn't know what else to do. I didn't know if he was scared, or safe, or hurt. Then at 7:06 Tim got a text saying our son was home. I was so relieved I started crying. Reed was crying too, and he was scared, but he wasn't hurt. My son was missing for 3 and a half hours and it was the worst thing I've ever felt in my life.
That being said, I am asking again that everyone share this link. This is our niece, Puff.
Her real name is Janteyl and she disappeared in Feb. of 2010.

Everyday her mother, father, sister and brother wake up with a piece of them missing. We all do as family, but I'm sure they feel it most. Her parents have missed; the birth of her first child, her prom, her high school graduation, her first day of college &  seeing her mature from a teenager into a young woman.
Her 20th birthday just passed...

Please share this to help bring Puff back home, thank you.
(Also, just ignore that age progression thing, because she probably looks more like her photos,than that age progression. I think they messed up and aged her by 19yrs, instead to 19yrs).

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Friday, September 12, 2014

Men Can't hit Women....Unless they're in uniform....Law Enforcement Uniform.

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Remeber when Philadelphia's own Lieutenant Jonathan Josey punched Aida Guzman in the face, because he thought she flicked water on him? The incident was caught on video. There was not much public outrage, but people heard about it. Josey was able to return to his job (as a police lieutenant).

Do we hold our football players to a higher standard than our police officers?

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Monday, August 18, 2014

Dogs Get More Respect Than People in this Country

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Over 4.5 million people are bitten by dogs every year and about 800,000 of those bites are severe enough to warrant a trip to the hospital.

Despite these numbers, more & more activists continue to fight for the rights of these vicious animals. If you support the health and well being of human life in America, I'm asking you to take a stand. Let's say, "no" to dogs.

No, you can't bring your dog in the pharmacy.

No, you can't bring your dog in the bank.

No, you can't have your dog off the leash roaming & pooping on sidewalks that were created for people.

No, you can't bring your dog to the grocery store.

No, I don't want to pet your dog.

Right now, somehwere in this country, a human is being arrested over a dog, or having their ankles viciously attacked. What will you do to help end this mistreatment of human life? Will you stand up and say, "No!" I know I will.  I don't care how cute that dog is, I'm going to take a stand for the humans of the USA.

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Saturday, August 02, 2014

Stephen A., Domestic Violence, and Are you fucking kidding me?

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Stephen A. Smith was suspended for one week from ESPN, because his apology for something he should not have had to apologize for, was not good enough.

To me, this is stupid and irritating. I'm not a Stephen A. fan, but in this matter I don't see what he said wrong. Man or woman, if you're bigger or stronger than me, I'm probably not going to provoke you, or hit you. I'm also not going to go walking down dark alleys at night in a mini skirt, because I don't want to get raped. Am I blaming victims by saying this? No. I am only expressing the fact that I choose to use precautionary measures to prevent myself from being harmed, and I teach my daughters the same thing.

To me, this goes beyond the scope of Domestic Violence. Violence is violence and assault is assault. It doesn't matter if the person throwing the punch is a male or female. I find it very hard to believe that we're all just walking around here saying, and feeling that it's okay to do whatever you want to people and if they do something back, it's completely their fault. That to me is stupid.

I have a son and 3 daughters. My son is second to the youngest. From the time he could swing a fist he's been told, "Don't hit her. You can't hit a girl." He's also been punished for doing so. My children are now 9, 12, 13 and 18. If my son and one of his sisters get into a physical altercation, 100% of the time, it is because the girls have slapped him, pushed him or kicked him. I punish the girls the same as the boy. I don't care who started it, or whose hit was the hardest. What I should have done from the beginning is told all of my children, from the time they could swing a punch, not to put their hands on other people (period). We don't use violence to express our emotions. Especially when dealing with people that we love. If you wouldn't want someone else walking up to your brother, sister, parent or significant other and physically assaulting them, then you don't do it either.

Ray Rice, who knocked out his wife in an elevator, may need anger management. Him and his wife may also need couples therapy. I heard Rice publicly apologizing to his wife and saying she's a complete angel and did nothing wrong. I'm glad that he can admit that he lost his temper and spun way out of control. However, I'm not buying the part when he said that it's not him, or not like him to behave in that manner. If his wife is a complete angel, and did nothing wrong, then this was all him, behaving as he does. I hope that this young couple seeks out some kind of counseling to help them better deal with their issues so that they can have a healthy and strong marriage free of any type of violence.

Still, I think Stephen A. is getting more noise over this than Rice, who actually committed the assault. I teach my daughters not to hit boys and not to push people's buttons. I also teach them not to meet up with a guy they just met in a secluded place like, his house; to definitely never go over a guys house when it's just him and his friends there; and to not walk home late at night by their self. As a woman raising three ladies I would rather teach my daughters to be safe, cautious and not provoke men, or women, because you don't know the mentality of other people.

I don't think Stephen A. should have been suspended. I support what he said. I also agree with Whoopi Goldberg who defended Stephen A. 

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Thursday, June 05, 2014

Remember Slips? ....Why Don't They Bring Those Back?

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Someone posted the above  photo on Facebook with the caption, "Remember Slips?"
And as a matter of fact, I do remember slips. I think they should bring them back & teach these young girls how to dress in church, because half of the time they look like they're headed to the club.
I do understand where they're coming from when they make statements like, "I'm a work in progress," "God isn't done with me yet", "At least I'm in church" & "Come as you are." However, if you've been a member for over a year, I think it's time to dress a little more modest for Sunday service.

Sometimes I wish we could go back to when women were classy and everyone didn't think it was cool to be a whore.

I remember being a little girl and watching women on talk shows and interviews discussing women's rights. They wanted men to stop objectifying us and they didn't want to be called bitches. 
I don't understand what these younger females are doing right now, because they like being called a bitch and they like being objectified. Whatever they're doing, they're doing it trashy, not classy. Girls and women were actually on twitter bashing Rashida Jones for what they called "slut slamin." I don't get why. Frankly, I'm sick of seeing everyone's ass on videos too. 
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Sunday, January 26, 2014

SPP: The Road Not Taken

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Today's poem is by Robert Frost
My husband shared this poem with me the other day, so I thought I'd share it today since I haven't done a Poetry Post in a while.

The Road Not Taken

Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;

Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim
Because it was grassy and wanted wear,
Though as for that the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,

And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way
I doubted if I should ever come back.

I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I,
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.
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