Friday, September 12, 2014

Men Can't hit Women....Unless they're in uniform....Law Enforcement Uniform.

Remeber when Philadelphia's own Lieutenant Jonathan Josey punched Aida Guzman in the face, because he thought she flicked water on him? The incident was caught on video. There was not much public outrage, but people heard about it. Josey was able to return to his job (as a police lieutenant).

Do we hold our football players to a higher standard than our police officers?

Monday, August 18, 2014

Dogs Get More Respect Than People in this Country

Over 4.5 million people are bitten by dogs every year and about 800,000 of those bites are severe enough to warrant a trip to the hospital.

Despite these numbers, more & more activists continue to fight for the rights of these vicious animals. If you support the health and well being of human life in America, I'm asking you to take a stand. Let's say, "no" to dogs.

No, you can't bring your dog in the pharmacy.

No, you can't bring your dog in the bank.

No, you can't have your dog off the leash roaming & pooping on sidewalks that were created for people.

No, you can't bring your dog to the grocery store.

No, I don't want to pet your dog.

Right now, somehwere in this country, a human is being arrested over a dog, or having their ankles viciously attacked. What will you do to help end this mistreatment of human life? Will you stand up and say, "No!" I know I will.  I don't care how cute that dog is, I'm going to take a stand for the humans of the USA.

Saturday, August 02, 2014

Stephen A., Domestic Violence, and Are you fucking kidding me?

Stephen A. Smith was suspended for one week from ESPN, because his apology for something he should not have had to apologize for, was not good enough.

To me, this is stupid and irritating. I'm not a Stephen A. fan, but in this matter I don't see what he said wrong. Man or woman, if you're bigger or stronger than me, I'm probably not going to provoke you, or hit you. I'm also not going to go walking down dark alleys at night in a mini skirt, because I don't want to get raped. Am I blaming victims by saying this? No. I am only expressing the fact that I choose to use precautionary measures to prevent myself from being harmed, and I teach my daughters the same thing.

To me, this goes beyond the scope of Domestic Violence. Violence is violence and assault is assault. It doesn't matter if the person throwing the punch is a male or female. I find it very hard to believe that we're all just walking around here saying, and feeling that it's okay to do whatever you want to people and if they do something back, it's completely their fault. That to me is stupid.

I have a son and 3 daughters. My son is second to the youngest. From the time he could swing a fist he's been told, "Don't hit her. You can't hit a girl." He's also been punished for doing so. My children are now 9, 12, 13 and 18. If my son and one of his sisters get into a physical altercation, 100% of the time, it is because the girls have slapped him, pushed him or kicked him. I punish the girls the same as the boy. I don't care who started it, or whose hit was the hardest. What I should have done from the beginning is told all of my children, from the time they could swing a punch, not to put their hands on other people (period). We don't use violence to express our emotions. Especially when dealing with people that we love. If you wouldn't want someone else walking up to your brother, sister, parent or significant other and physically assaulting them, then you don't do it either.

Ray Rice, who knocked out his wife in an elevator, may need anger management. Him and his wife may also need couples therapy. I heard Rice publicly apologizing to his wife and saying she's a complete angel and did nothing wrong. I'm glad that he can admit that he lost his temper and spun way out of control. However, I'm not buying the part when he said that it's not him, or not like him to behave in that manner. If his wife is a complete angel, and did nothing wrong, then this was all him, behaving as he does. I hope that this young couple seeks out some kind of counseling to help them better deal with their issues so that they can have a healthy and strong marriage free of any type of violence.

Still, I think Stephen A. is getting more noise over this than Rice, who actually committed the assault. I teach my daughters not to hit boys and not to push people's buttons. I also teach them not to meet up with a guy they just met in a secluded place like, his house; to definitely never go over a guys house when it's just him and his friends there; and to not walk home late at night by their self. As a woman raising three ladies I would rather teach my daughters to be safe, cautious and not provoke men, or women, because you don't know the mentality of other people.

I don't think Stephen A. should have been suspended. I support what he said. I also agree with Whoopi Goldberg who defended Stephen A. 

Thursday, June 05, 2014

Remember Slips?

Someone posted the below photo on Facebook with the caption, "Remember Slips?"

And as a matter of fact, I do remember slips. I think they should bring them back & teach these young girls how to dress in church, because half of the time they look like they're headed to the club.

I do understand where they're coming from when they make statements like, "I'm a work in progress," "God isn't done with me yet", "At least I'm in church" & "Come as you are." However, if you've been a member for over a year, I think it's time to dress a little more modest for Sunday service.

Sometimes I wish we could go back to when women were classy and everyone didn't think it was cool to be a whore.

I remember being a little girl and watching women on talk shows and interviews discussing women's rights. They wanted men to stop objectifying us and they didn't want to be called bitches. 

I don't understand what these younger females are doing right now, because they like being called a bitch and they like being objectified. Whatever they're doing, they're doing it trashy, not classy. Girls and women were actually on twitter bashing Rashida Jones for what they called "slut slamin." I don't get why. Frankly, I'm sick of seeing everyone's ass on videos too. 

Sunday, January 26, 2014

SPP: The Road Not Taken


Today's poem is by Robert Frost
My husband shared this poem with me the other day, so I thought I'd share it today since I haven't done a Poetry Post in a while.

The Road Not Taken

Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;

Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim
Because it was grassy and wanted wear,
Though as for that the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,

And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way
I doubted if I should ever come back.

I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I,
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.

Sunday, January 12, 2014

Hearts

A little greenery in the heart of Point Breeze. 

Saturday, January 11, 2014

Father Sentenced to Jail for over-paying Child Support

This has got to be one of the most ridiculous things I've ever heard of. Judge Lisa Millard of Harris County District Court has sentenced Clifford Hall to 180 days in jail for over paying his child support by $3000 and visiting his son too much.

Hall's support obligations and visitation time was modified without his knowledge sometime between Nov. of 2013 and now. But according to the Houston Judge, that doesn't matter. This black father needs to be punished for not taking care of his son the way the court says he should. How dare he pay too much for that boy and try to spend a bunch of time with him! Not in Houston and not on her watch!
Judge Millard

Hall will be in jail for six months, and most likely lose his job.
Hall's son will be deprived of spending time with his father.
Hall has been ordered to pay his ex wife's attorneys fees.
Tax payer's will have to pay for Hall's incarceration time.
And if the boys mom ends up on public assistance, because she will have no support for the next six months, tax payers get to pay that too.

Judge Millard says that when she sentenced Hall he walked out of court which is, "a big no no." ("A big no-no?" She sounds like she's talking to a toddler).  She also says his attorney should have filed a motion for reconsideration. If I was Hall I might have told her to shove her mallet up her ass. His attorney shouldn't have to file any motions, because she shouldn't have sentenced him to 6 months in jail. She could have found him in contempt and issued monetary sanctions. It's civil contempt.


 

Thursday, January 09, 2014

The Future: Six Drivers of Global Change

I don't really do book reviews, I just like to share books that I enjoyed reading. Especially when they are informative, or eye-opening. Here is a quote from, The Future that I liked:

"It is interesting to note that the United States now has more inequality than either Egypt or Tunisia. The Occupy Wall Street movement caught fire because of a broad awakening to the dramatic increase in the concentration of wealth held by the top one percent, who now have more wealth than the people in the bottom 90 percent. The wealthiest 400 Americans -all billionaires-have more wealth as a group than the 150 million Americans in the bottom 50 percent." - Al Gore, The Future: Six Drivers of Global Change 

Tuesday, January 07, 2014

The Toughest Cold in Nearly 2 Decades

Right now, in the US we have been dealing with unbelievably cold and dangerous temperatures. I have been out there, catching the bus and traveling to work...and baby, it's definitely cold outside! Here are a few photos showing the cold weather we've facing.



Chicago beaches are covered in ice.



Snowstorms made it difficult to see in St. Louis

Flights were delayed


Subways in New York were cold and snowy

Low temperatures called for a code blue alert in several major cities. 

There have been at least 15 deaths linked to the freezing temperatures




Moving On - Why Your Ex Acts Crazy


I find myself sometimes wondering why people go through so much drama with their ex-girlfriend/boyfriend. At a recent social gathering I participated in an hour long session of girl talk, which was based on stories of our husband's psychotic ex-partners. This lead me to doing some reading on the subject of why some women act so crazy over their former partners. 

I've found that the main reason for this behavior is that the woman has not yet moved on from the relationship. It might seem as if the woman hates her former partner, but really she still has an emotional attachment to him. She has not taken the steps toward healing, and gotten over the relationship. According to an article I read on Mommynoire.com, a woman should take certain steps to help her move past a broken relationship. 


It is necessary to practice extreme self-care when your relationship has ended. Taking care yourself, loving yourself, and putting yourself first are all very important to the healing process. The article also suggests forgiveness and taking personal responsibility. 


When a relationship has ended badly, and the woman is hurt, she will often assume the role of "the victim." She will then blame everything that went wrong on her former partner. Personal responsibility is important, because no matter how bad someone treated you, it was ultimately your decision to either stay in or leave relationship. Our decisions are ours alone, and we are responsible for the decisions that we make. If you're obsessing over your ex instead of moving on, that's your choice. Continuously dragging out the victim, or poor-me role, can start to look pathetic after a while. 


How long can one complain about the way someone mistreated them before people get tired of listening. I know a woman who separated from her ex in 2007. She's still obsessing over him today. He's clearly moved on while she remains angry and tries to use their children as a way to interfere with his life and happiness. Being angry over a relationship that reached its end almost 7 years ago is completely insane. The problem with this woman is that she has not moved on. Her constant obsession with her ex is also becoming a hindrance on her new relationship. Her current partner may feel insecure, or rejected when she spends a good portion of her life trying to sabotage her ex, rather than preparing for a future with him. 


A person cannot get over their ex until they have accepted on both a logical and emotional level, that he/she was not the person for them. If you're still dwelling on how he should have treated you and what he was supposed to do in the relationship, then you have not emotionally detached yourself from your ex. You have not accepted that he was not the person for you. You need to look inside of yourself and determine where you are still tied to your ex, so that you can get over him and move on. An article by Shelly Stile on Life After Your Divorce, gives the following example to show a situation in which a person has not completely let go of their previous relationship.

"You and your ex have children together therefore you must be in contact with one another on a regular basis. Unfortunately, your discussions with him always end in an argument. Nothing happens easily. The deep resentments and hurts suffered in your marriage and actual divorce remain intact. You each know each other’s hot buttons and continue to push those buttons resulting in upsets. It’s the old marriage still running the game. You continually get sucked into this abyss."
If this is happening, you have not completely detached yourself from your ex. You have not accepted that the relationship is truly over.

A woman will behave unreasonably when it comes to their ex when she has not emotionally detached herself and accepted the fact that he was not the right choice for her. Accepting the fact that a relationship you had with someone you loved has failed is difficult. However, acceptance is a necessary part of the healing process; and that includes accepting responsibility for your own choices. 

Monday, January 06, 2014

Quote from the Book, The New Jim Crow

“Arguably the most important parallel between mass incarceration and Jim Crow is that both have served to define the meaning and significance of race in America. Indeed, a primary function of any racial caste system is to define the meaning of race in its time. Slavery defined what it meant to be black (a slave), and Jim Crow defined what it meant to be black (a second-class citizen). Today mass incarceration defines the meaning of blackness in America: black people, especially black men, are criminals. That is what it means to be black.” ― Michelle Alexander, The New Jim Crow: Mass Incarceration in the Age of Colorblindness


 I 'm sharing this, because I really enjoyed this book. What do you think? 

Friday, January 03, 2014

Spring Things

Spring Things

Spring Things by nita-edwards featuring a nude lipstick

Some sassy looks I would like to try this Spring. 


Camo tank
$22 - emp.de



Camo skinny jeans
nastygal.com



Proenza Schouler zipper wallet
openingceremony.us


Jane Norman gold chain necklace
$16 - janenorman.co.uk


Wooden necklace
scullyandscully.com


Antique clip on earrings
fashionphile.com


AS29 black diamond jewelry
$5,680 - montaignemarket.com


Rayban military sunglasses
$230 - liberty.co.uk


NYX nude lipstick
$11 - target.com.au


Chanel liquid eye liner
bergdorfgoodman.com